This week I decided to say ‘no’ to a work project that wasn’t a fit for me. Saying ‘no’ has always been hard for me – I like being able to say ‘yes’! I really tortured myself over the decision – all kinds of ‘shoulds’, or Gremlins, as they are often called in coaching, kept coming up. But as I really considered where I want to be putting my energy and time, it became clearer that saying ‘no’ was what I needed to do. It was hard – while saying ‘no’ was about honoring my values and my path, making this choice also meant saying ‘no’ to money, disappointing others, and creating uncertainty about what would come next.
Yet, once I did make the decision to say ‘no’, it’s been really interesting to see what has opened up for me: I finally started this blog, which has been a project in my mind for the past 4 months; I was approached about collaborative work with other coaches; I reconnected with former colleagues about my coaching business. Overall, by being able to say ‘no’, I feel clearer about what I want to say ‘yes’ to in my work, and my life.
What do you want to say ‘yes’ to? What could be possible if you say ‘no’?